People often struggle to change the way they think, feel, say and do things, even when they really would like to, and have suffered serious professional, relational, health and economic consequences for the way they do.
Author: Ray Mathis
PMH Tool 10 – Recognizing when you and other have Mistaken Goals
Behavior is always purposeful. People start and continue to do things because it serves a purpose in their lives. Ideally, everything we think, feel, say or do would help us…
PMH Tool 9 – A simple, non-judgmental way to evaluate thoughts, feelings and actions
Irrational means thinking, feeling, saying or doing something that makes your life, and perhaps the lives of others worse instead of better. Rational means thinking, feeling, saying or doing something…
PMH Tool 8 – Asserting yourself with “I” Messages
Dr. Paul Hauck, an REBT therapist from Davenport, Iowa, USA said that whenever you find yourself in a situation you don’t like, you have four basic options: Problem solve and…
PMH Mental and Emotional Toolbox – by Ray Mathis, EQ4Peace
Positive Mental Health Toolbox: 11 Mental and Emotional Power Tools The concepts, language, and skills to build a positive, successful, emotionally-intelligent life. Tool 1 – Understanding and appreciating the important…
PMH Tool 7 – A step-by-step approach to troublesome life events – Dr. Albert Ellis’ A-B-C-D-E steps
In math classes, we are taught that if we approach each new problem in the same step-by-step fashion, we are more likely to arrive at the correct answer to the…
PMH Tool 6 – Correcting Irrational Thinking in Yourself and Tactfully Challenging It in Others
B stands for Belief, D for Dispute, and A for Answer DEMANDINGNESS Demands in the form of questions B HOW DARE they say that about me? A EASILY! B HOW…
PMH Tool 5 – The Think-Feel-Do Thermostat Model
A picture is worth a thousand words. The Think-Feel-Do Thermostat Model is a simple but effective visual to help people see: Where they are emotionally and behaviorally at any given…
PMH Tool 4 – Recognizing Irrational Thinking in Yourself and Others
THOUGHTS cause FEELINGS, not EVENTS. For that reason, it’s important to recognize when you and others think irrationally. Irrational means in ways that cause you to feel worse than is…
PMH Tool 3 – Developing an Internal Locus of Control
Locus of control means where we see our feelings as coming from, what we see as the cause of them. Most people have an external (outer) locus of control They…
PMH Tool 2 – Choosing to have Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA) and Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA)
Unconditional Self-Acceptance means choosing to see whatever we think, feel, say or do, have in the past or might in the future as being part of being human, and understandable…
PMH Tool 1 – Understanding and appreciating the important role of emotion in everyday life
Emotion (e-motion) is energy to move. It’s intended to help us deal with threats and get what we want and need. At some point, everyone generates a dysfunctional amount of…
Fostering Peace and Preventing Needless Conflict and Suffering Through Emotional Education
Want to truly take control of your inner world, mentally and emotionally? Here’s how.
REBT 4 Peace
Applying the concepts of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) and Education to the goal of Peace Step 1: Start by teaching and encouraging students to adopt the belief that all…
10 Steps to EQ, by Ray Mathis
Step 1 – Learn and appreciate the important role emotion plays in everyday life. Emotion is energy to move to help us deal with threats and get what we want…
Authentic Communication
I had to look up the term “authentic communication” because I’d never heard it before. “Effective” yes but not authentic. I like to think of communication in terms of effective…
Athletic Stress & Pressure
Helping athletes and students better deal with the usual stress and pressure associated with trying to excel is easier than most realize. We’ve recently seen two premier athletes, first Naomi…