Distinguish the following Pairs, from an EQ point-of-view (10.23.2022)
(hint1: this is NOT about speed… you need to ‘get it’, not just read it. Don’t just think about each, feel about them, too. Read thru the list very, very slooowly… listen to your thoughts, and notice your feelings, as you develop your answers. #ThatsEQ | #1U | #Enjoy!)
(hint2: There are too many to do them all, so just scan a few to see what speaks to you… then consider… both sides.)
What’s the EQ Dif(ference) between:
- Holding someone accountable and Blaming them
- Guilt and Shame
- Faith and Trust
- Love and Hate
- EQ and IQ
- Left-brain and right-brain
- Head and Heart (and Hand)
- Being In your Head and Living From your Heart
- Thinking and Acting
- Thoughts and Feelings
- Feelings and Emotions
- Negatives and Positives
- Positive and Negative Emotions (“Nothing” ~ Josh Freedman)
- Venting and Complaining
- Venting (outta me) and Dumping (onto you)
- Love and Respect
- Fear and Anxiety
- What’s the opposite of ‘Victim’?
- Hope and Faith
- Surviving and Thriving
- Forgiving and not Forgiving
- Forgiving and Forgetting
- Forgiving and not Forgetting
- Leading and being a Control freak
- Bossy and Bullying
- Judgment and Discernment
- Strong Emotions and Drama
- Using Someone and a Value-4-Value relationship
- What to do With a problem and What to do About a problem?
- Codependence and Independence
- Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and Inner Peace
- Inner Peace and not Inner Peace
- Feeling Sorry for someone and Feeling With someone
- Love and Appreciation
- Appreciating someone’s behaviours very, very much and Loving that person?
- Victim and Victor
- Victim and Volunteer
- Powerless and Powerful
- Be Careful and Be Mindful
- Being Bossy and being a Leader
- Thoughts and Thinking
- Petrified and Prosperous
- Forgiving and forgetting
- Blaming and Holding accountable
- Concern and Worry
- Expectance and Acceptance
- Worrier and Warrior
- A Player and a Pawn
- Good and God?
- Envious and Jealous
- Baggage and Experience
- Being there For someone and Being there With someone
- I got your Back and Back-stabbing
- I Am sad and I Feel sad
- I Want and I Need
- I Can’t and I Can
- I Can’t and I Won’t
- I Will and I’ll Try
- I Can and I Will
- I demand and I suggest
- Motivation by Fear and Motivation by Love
- A Good guy and a Bad guy
- Help and Harm
- Giver and Taker
- Connect to and Connect with
- Gratitude, Thankfulness and Appreciation
- Luck and Karma
- Making things happen and Letting things happen
- Passive loving and Active loving
- PTSDisorder and PTSGrowth
- Considering others and Pleasing others
- Emotional Boundaries and Physical Boundaries
- Teachers who say, “get out your SEL book” and those who ask, “so, tell me about Recess”.
- Being Nice and Being Kind
- Assertive and Aggressive
- Emotional and Emotive
- Punishment and Consequences
- Punishment and Discipline
- Opinion and Judgment
- Critique and Criticism
- Brutal Honesty and Brutality (hint: it’s love!)
- The Definition of a word and the Meaning of a word or phrase
- Thinking and Over-thinking
- Caring (a LOT) about Something and Over-thinking
- Showing emotions and Not showing emotions
- Not showing emotions and Stuffing emotions
- Being ‘real’ and Not being real
- Caring (a LOT) about something vs. Over-thinking
- Caring for and Caring about
- Lifting people up and Tearing/Putting people down
- Taking care of yourself and Being self-centered
- Giving too little and Giving too much (and Giving just right #Give2Live!)
- I love you and I appreciate you
- Keeping boundaries, and Not keeping boundaries
- Reacting and Responding
- Intentional and Habitual (actions)
- Low and High EQ (see EQ_LowVsHigh.jpg)
- Persistence and Perserverance
- Being Useful and being Used
- Resentful and Revengeful
- I Don’t Care and It Doesn’t Matter
Let us know how it’s going for you.
