#EQDistinctions differentiate, distinguish the following pairs:
- Holding someone accountable and blaming them
- Guilt and shame
- Positive and negative emotions (“Nothing” ~ Josh Freedman)
- Negatives and positives
- Feelings and emotions
- Faith and Trust
- Love and Hate
- Thoughts and Feelings
- Fear and Anxiety
- Venting and Complaining
- – Venting (outta me) and Dumping (onto you)
- What’s the opposite of “victim”?
- Surviving and thriving
- Forgiving and not forgiving
- Leading and being a control freak
- Bossy and bullying
- Judgment and discernment
- Love and Respect
- Strong emotions and drama
- “Using” someone and a Value-4-Value relationship
- “What we do WITH a problem” vs. “What we do ABOUT a problem”?
- Surviving and thriving
- Hope and faith
- Codependence and Independence\
- Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and Inner Peace
- Feeling sorry for someone and feeling with someone
- Love and appreciation
- Appreciating someone’s behaviours very, very much and loving that person?
- Victim and Victor
- – Victim and Volunteer
- Powerless and Powerful
- Be Careful and Be Mindful
- Being bossy and being a leader
- Thoughts vs. thinking
- Petrified or prosperous
- Powerless and powerful
- EQ and IQ
- Forgiving and forgetting
- Blaming and Holding accountable
- Concern and Worry
- Expectance and Acceptance
- Worrier and Warrior
- A player or a pawn
- Good and God?
- Envious and jealous
- Baggage and experience
- Being there FOR and being there WITH
- “I am sad” vs. “I feel sad”
- “I want” and “I need”
- “I can’t” and “I can”
- “I can’t” and “I won’t”
- “I will” and “I’ll try”
- “I can” and “I will”
- “I demand” and “I suggest”
- Motivation by Fear and Motivation by Love
- A good guy and a bad guy
- Help and harm
- Giver and taker
- Connect to and connect with
- Gratitude, Thankfulness and Appreciation
- Luck and Karma
- Making things happen and Letting things happen
- Passive loving and active loving
- PTSDisorder and PTSGrowth
- Considering others and Pleasing others
- Emotional Boundaries and Physical Boundaries
- Teachers who say “get out your SEL book” and those who ask “so, how was recess?”
- Being Nice and Being Kind
- Assertive and Aggressive
- Emotional and Emotive
- Punishment and Consequences
- Punishment and Discipline
- Opinion and judgment
- Critique and criticism
- The Definition of a word and the Meaning of a word or phrase
- Thinking and over-thinking
- – Caring (a LOT) about something and over-thinking
- Showing emotions / being ‘real’ vs. looking together and ‘professional’ at all times
- caring (a LOT) about something vs. over-thinking
- Empathy vs. Compassion